at you hear. A man can’t just whisper sweet nothings in your ear and turn your head. He’s got to say more than you’re pretty, you’re sexy, or he is crazy about you. Your self-love requires more.

I often wonder how online predators and scam artists are so successful. I believe it’s because they have learned to speak a woman’s language. Or at best, they know what to say t

If you can get in a woman’s head, you can get into a woman’s bed. Fact or fiction? Is this a stereotypic belief founded in untruth? Or have we given away our power to opportunists who seek to invade our sensibilities and take over our lives?

Though no one knows exactly where it originated, the quote, “divide and conquer” has been around since the days of Julius Caesar. It is the belief that one can achieve military advantage or power over an enemy by somehow fracturing the whole. Even if the enemy is more powerful than you, you can still gain an advantage if you discover his weakness.

Before you react with insult and disdain, let’s evaluate this objectively. It is true that women tend to be feelers. We are the ones who can detect if something is wrong in the relationship. Who would argue that women have a sixth sense, a knowing, a more developed sensing ability than our male counterparts.

Though this is one of our greatest gifts, in the absence of fact, we often get talked out of what we truly truly sense in our gut. Oftentimes, we are criticized in the workplace and by our mates for being “emotional.” Who says that just because we can’t produce factual evidence, our “knowing” is nullified? Nevertheless, when challenged, we are more inclined to abandon what we feel. How many times have we so easily abandoned our intuition and later regretted it?

Honor your feelings. This is key. When you really esteem your feelings and regard your emotions, you aren’t so easily seduced by what you hear. A man can’t just whisper sweet nothings in your ear and turn your head. He’s got to say more than you’re pretty, you’re sexy, or he is crazy about you. Your self-love requires more.

I often wonder how online predators and scam artists are so successful. I believe it’s because they have learned to speak a woman’s language. Or at best, they know what to say t

t is the belief that one can achieve military advantage or power over an enemy by somehow fracturing the whole. Even if the enemy is more powerful than you, you can still gain an advantage if you discover his weakness.

Before you react with insult and disdain, let’s evaluate this objectively. It is true that women tend to be feelers. We are the ones who can detect if something is wrong in the relationship. Who would argue that women have a sixth sense, a knowing, a more developed sensing ability than our male counterparts.

Though this is one of our greatest gifts, in the absence of fact, we often get talked out of what we truly truly sense in our gut. Oftentimes, we are criticized in the workplace and by our mates for being “emotional.” Who says that just because we can’t produce factual evidence, our “knowing” is nullified? Nevertheless, when challenged, we are more inclined to abandon what we feel. How many times have we so easily abandoned our intuition and later regretted it?

Honor your feelings. This is key. When you really esteem your feelings and regard your emotions, you aren’t so easily seduced by what you hear. A man can’t just whisper sweet nothings in your ear and turn your head. He’s got to say more than you’re pretty, you’re sexy, or he is crazy about you. Your self-love requires more.

I often wonder how online predators and scam artists are so successful. I believe it’s because they have learned to speak a woman’s language. Or at best, they know what to say t

hing is wrong in the relationship. Who would argue that women have a sixth sense, a knowing, a more developed sensing ability than our male counterparts.

Though this is one of our greatest gifts, in the absence of fact, we often get talked out of what we truly truly sense in our gut. Oftentimes, we are criticized in the workplace and by our mates for being “emotional.” Who says that just because we can’t produce factual evidence, our “knowing” is nullified? Nevertheless, when challenged, we are more inclined to abandon what we feel. How many times have we so easily abandoned our intuition and later regretted it?

Honor your feelings. This is key. When you really esteem your feelings and regard your emotions, you aren’t so easily seduced by what you hear. A man can’t just whisper sweet nothings in your ear and turn your head. He’s got to say more than you’re pretty, you’re sexy, or he is crazy about you. Your self-love requires more.

I often wonder how online predators and scam artists are so successful. I believe it’s because they have learned to speak a woman’s language. Or at best, they know what to say t

ays that just because we can’t produce factual evidence, our “knowing” is nullified? Nevertheless, when challenged, we are more inclined to abandon what we feel. How many times have we so easily abandoned our intuition and later regretted it?

Honor your feelings. This is key. When you really esteem your feelings and regard your emotions, you aren’t so easily seduced by what you hear. A man can’t just whisper sweet nothings in your ear and turn your head. He’s got to say more than you’re pretty, you’re sexy, or he is crazy about you. Your self-love requires more.

I often wonder how online predators and scam artists are so successful. I believe it’s because they have learned to speak a woman’s language. Or at best, they know what to say t

at you hear. A man can’t just whisper sweet nothings in your ear and turn your head. He’s got to say more than you’re pretty, you’re sexy, or he is crazy about you. Your self-love requires more.

I often wonder how online predators and scam artists are so successful. I believe it’s because they have learned to speak a woman’s language. Or at best, they know what to say that attracts a vulnerable woman. He trusts that if he taps into a woman’s emotional frequency, he can reel her in.

Maybe this is why teenage boys seek good pick up lines or men at nightclubs run so much game. They know or have heard that if they can say the right thing, they can get a private audience. I understand that all guys aren't the same. But you must admit that true character and personal integrity seem to take a back seat.

So, how do we avoid predators? I believe, first and foremost, we must respect our womanhood. Denying oneself never makes one stronger. Know thyself. Know thy boundaries. If you are in the early stages of relating and you know that you melt when a man touches you a certain way, limit the physical touching. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. When you treasure yourself, you won’t expose your vulnerabilities too quickly. Let him prove himself worthy of the privilege of handling you in that manner.

Do not drink. No, not even a glass of wine on a first date. Generally, women get intoxicated faster than men. Remember, you have to keep your sensibility. Your goal is to enjoy his company. Have fun. Flirt a little. Approach him from a standpoint of interest and curiosity.

Educate yourself about men. Read books about men written by men. Who knows them better? Also, seek the counsel of a male family member whom you trust to help you keep it real. Learn to speak a man’s language. Embrace his culture: his way of thinking, his way of Being in this worl