ate, or a date with someone you met online or through a telephone dating service. Meeting the lady in a public place usually helps her feel more safe and secure.

It's also helpful to make your first date be something casual. Choosing a place that allows you to talk and get to know each other tends to be easiest, and a favorite choice is a coffee shop. Most coffee shops allow you to talk for as short or as long of a time as you'd like, and this gives both of you an easy "out" if t

Guys: When you're out with a lady, there are some things you might or might not do that could make her uncomfortable. These are most important to know about for the very first date - particularly if you're on a blind date or you're on the first date with someone you met online.

We'll assume you're dressed properly and groomed well, and move on to some of the less obvious tips that could help your first date be a huge hit.

First and foremost: Don't devour your lady with your eyes. No matter how beautiful she might be, women are very uncomfortable with - and sometimes ticked off by - guys undressing them with their eyes.

Along the same lines, be sure you don't make everything you say seem overly romantic, sexual, or suggestive. While there are exceptions to every rule, in general women don't like this on the first date. They want to feel more comfortable with a man before allowing too much intimacy, and often this applies even if you've had suggestive telephone or online conversations in the past.

At the same time though, you don't want to appear too desperate or needy. Women don't always like to admit it, but they do tend to be more attracted to stronger, capable, confident men. And I'm not talking muscle strength here guys... women want men who are emotionally and psychologically strong in some way. This is where intelligence comes into play too: Women talk about wanting to have intelligent conversations with men, and this generally is another form of strength: Mental strength.

So, appearing too desperate or needy is likely to turn a woman off. This means you should leave the details of your financial agonies at home for the night, and don't obsess over how lonely you are, or how badly you were hurt in your last relationship.

Now, since this is the first date you want to offer to meet your lady in a public place instead of picking her up at home. This is particularly important if it's a blind date, or a date with someone you met online or through a telephone dating service. Meeting the lady in a public place usually helps her feel more safe and secure.

It's also helpful to make your first date be something casual. Choosing a place that allows you to talk and get to know each other tends to be easiest, and a favorite choice is a coffee shop. Most coffee shops allow you to talk for as short or as long of a time as you'd like, and this gives both of you an easy "out" if th

eyes. No matter how beautiful she might be, women are very uncomfortable with - and sometimes ticked off by - guys undressing them with their eyes.

Along the same lines, be sure you don't make everything you say seem overly romantic, sexual, or suggestive. While there are exceptions to every rule, in general women don't like this on the first date. They want to feel more comfortable with a man before allowing too much intimacy, and often this applies even if you've had suggestive telephone or online conversations in the past.

At the same time though, you don't want to appear too desperate or needy. Women don't always like to admit it, but they do tend to be more attracted to stronger, capable, confident men. And I'm not talking muscle strength here guys... women want men who are emotionally and psychologically strong in some way. This is where intelligence comes into play too: Women talk about wanting to have intelligent conversations with men, and this generally is another form of strength: Mental strength.

So, appearing too desperate or needy is likely to turn a woman off. This means you should leave the details of your financial agonies at home for the night, and don't obsess over how lonely you are, or how badly you were hurt in your last relationship.

Now, since this is the first date you want to offer to meet your lady in a public place instead of picking her up at home. This is particularly important if it's a blind date, or a date with someone you met online or through a telephone dating service. Meeting the lady in a public place usually helps her feel more safe and secure.

It's also helpful to make your first date be something casual. Choosing a place that allows you to talk and get to know each other tends to be easiest, and a favorite choice is a coffee shop. Most coffee shops allow you to talk for as short or as long of a time as you'd like, and this gives both of you an easy "out" if t

telephone or online conversations in the past.

At the same time though, you don't want to appear too desperate or needy. Women don't always like to admit it, but they do tend to be more attracted to stronger, capable, confident men. And I'm not talking muscle strength here guys... women want men who are emotionally and psychologically strong in some way. This is where intelligence comes into play too: Women talk about wanting to have intelligent conversations with men, and this generally is another form of strength: Mental strength.

So, appearing too desperate or needy is likely to turn a woman off. This means you should leave the details of your financial agonies at home for the night, and don't obsess over how lonely you are, or how badly you were hurt in your last relationship.

Now, since this is the first date you want to offer to meet your lady in a public place instead of picking her up at home. This is particularly important if it's a blind date, or a date with someone you met online or through a telephone dating service. Meeting the lady in a public place usually helps her feel more safe and secure.

It's also helpful to make your first date be something casual. Choosing a place that allows you to talk and get to know each other tends to be easiest, and a favorite choice is a coffee shop. Most coffee shops allow you to talk for as short or as long of a time as you'd like, and this gives both of you an easy "out" if t

enerally is another form of strength: Mental strength.

So, appearing too desperate or needy is likely to turn a woman off. This means you should leave the details of your financial agonies at home for the night, and don't obsess over how lonely you are, or how badly you were hurt in your last relationship.

Now, since this is the first date you want to offer to meet your lady in a public place instead of picking her up at home. This is particularly important if it's a blind date, or a date with someone you met online or through a telephone dating service. Meeting the lady in a public place usually helps her feel more safe and secure.

It's also helpful to make your first date be something casual. Choosing a place that allows you to talk and get to know each other tends to be easiest, and a favorite choice is a coffee shop. Most coffee shops allow you to talk for as short or as long of a time as you'd like, and this gives both of you an easy "out" if t

ate, or a date with someone you met online or through a telephone dating service. Meeting the lady in a public place usually helps her feel more safe and secure.

It's also helpful to make your first date be something casual. Choosing a place that allows you to talk and get to know each other tends to be easiest, and a favorite choice is a coffee shop. Most coffee shops allow you to talk for as short or as long of a time as you'd like, and this gives both of you an easy "out" if things don't seem to click between you.

Another popular first date option is going out to dinner or meeting for drinks. If you decide to do this, be sure you do not get drunk. In fact, know your alcohol limit and do not allow yourself to get close to it. Most of us are quite ugly when we've had too much alcohol, and this will usually ruin a first date very quickly.

If both you and the lady decide you'd like to do something more than coffee or drinks for your first date, try to choose something that will be fun and memorable. I'll assume you know something about what she likes to do, so try choosing your activities within those parameters. Don't however, break the rule about secluded places. Even if your date loves to go on remote hikes in the wilderness, this is not usually the best option for your first date because it's remote and secluded, so she may feel too vulnerable for comfort.

I know the above suggestions are not quite concrete enough for most men, and to add to this confusion... some women will react differently than others will. So these rules aren't set in stone, but they are excellent, safe suggestions for the first date. Once you've had a great first date, then you're able to get a better feel for the specific likes and dislikes of the woman, thus you can adjust your do's and don'ts for the next time.