Plain and simple, these are the keys to more and better sex for any married man. The minute the "I do's" are exchanged, too many men put their feet up and stop really making the emotional effort to romance and engage their wives. They forget that it's not just about getting the girl. It's about keeping the girl.

The Secret to Talking to Her Always remember that, for your wife, emotional intimacy is inextricably intertwined with physical intimacy. One is rarely present without the other. The quality of one is directly proportional to the quality of the other.

Communication is a real challenge between men and women because each sex approaches it so differently. In conversations, men report. Men’s conversations are typically goal-oriented. They get to the point quickly by editing out details and, typically, emotions. On the other hand, women are wired for rapport. Women want every detail, not the CliffsNotes version. She wants to know, "What are you thinking?" – that's why she asks all the time. For women, talking is a way to process and work through thoughts, feelings, ideas and problems. They do it out loud, while men do it in their heads.

So to connect with your wife, lean into her style. Make the effort to open up. Take the time to listen to her. This builds the rapport she needs. Engage her on an emotional level. Your wife consistently needs you to acknowledge her feelings; she needs to know that what she is saying is registering with you. Even if you don't agree with her, don't dismiss her feelings or make her feel ashamed or silly about the way she feels. Learn to resist the urge to fix things. Steer away from making suggestions for a solution, when all she wants is to be heard and validated by you.

The Secret to Romancing Her A recent major study of over 5,000 couples found that women are happiest in their marriages when they get their husbands' attention. The single most important factor in her happy marriage is her husband’s emotional engagement. What does that mean, exactly? It's as simple as showing interest in the routines of your wife’s life – the routine, mundane things that men normally don't talk about. Granted, it's not most men's style to do this. But it is a simple way to boost the romance quotient in your marriage…and even to get her in the mood.

Need further proof? Roughly two out of every three divorces are initiated by women. Sanford Braver, PhD, a professor of psychology at Arizona State University, surveyed hundreds of divorced men and women. The top reason women gave for a divorce was "losing a sense of closeness."

Every person wants to feel comfortable, safe, validated and connected in marriage. Enhance your physical relationship by addressing any unmet needs with your wife. Show her active love and engagement. Openly share yourself and let her feel close to you. This kind of connecting, taking the time to tune in to each other, builds security and intimacy in a relationship. It’s what keeps a marriage – and a committed se

Plain and simple, these are the keys to more and better sex for any married man. The minute the "I do's" are exchanged, too many men put their feet up and stop really making the emotional effort to romance and engage their wives. They forget that it's not just about getting the girl. It's about keeping the girl.

The Secret to Talking to Her Always remember that, for your wife, emotional intimacy is inextricably intertwined with physical intimacy. One is rarely present without the other. The quality of one is directly proportional to the quality of the other.

Communication is a real challenge between men and women because each sex approaches it so differently. In conversations, men report. Men’s conversations are typically goal-oriented. They get to the point quickly by editing out details and, typically, emotions. On the other hand, women are wired for rapport. Women want every detail, not the CliffsNotes version. She wants to know, "What are you thinking?" – that's why she asks all the time. For women, talking is a way to process and work through thoughts, feelings, ideas and problems. They do it out loud, while men do it in their heads.

So to connect with your wife, lean into her style. Make the effort to open up. Take the time to listen to her. This builds the rapport she needs. Engage her on an emotional level. Your wife consistently needs you to acknowledge her feelings; she needs to know that what she is saying is registering with you. Even if you don't agree with her, don't dismiss her feelings or make her feel ashamed or silly about the way she feels. Learn to resist the urge to fix things. Steer away from making suggestions for a solution, when all she wants is to be heard and validated by you.

The Secret to Romancing Her A recent major study of over 5,000 couples found that women are happiest in their marriages when they get their husbands' attention. The single most important factor in her happy marriage is her husband’s emotional engagement. What does that mean, exactly? It's as simple as showing interest in the routines of your wife’s life – the routine, mundane things that men normally don't talk about. Granted, it's not most men's style to do this. But it is a simple way to boost the romance quotient in your marriage…and even to get her in the mood.

Need further proof? Roughly two out of every three divorces are initiated by women. Sanford Braver, PhD, a professor of psychology at Arizona State University, surveyed hundreds of divorced men and women. The top reason women gave for a divorce was "losing a sense of closeness."

Every person wants to feel comfortable, safe, validated and connected in marriage. Enhance your physical relationship by addressing any unmet needs with your wife. Show her active love and engagement. Openly share yourself and let her feel close to you. This kind of connecting, taking the time to tune in to each other, builds security and intimacy in a relationship. It’s what keeps a marriage – and a committed se

Communication is a real challenge between men and women because each sex approaches it so differently. In conversations, men report. Men’s conversations are typically goal-oriented. They get to the point quickly by editing out details and, typically, emotions. On the other hand, women are wired for rapport. Women want every detail, not the CliffsNotes version. She wants to know, "What are you thinking?" – that's why she asks all the time. For women, talking is a way to process and work through thoughts, feelings, ideas and problems. They do it out loud, while men do it in their heads.

So to connect with your wife, lean into her style. Make the effort to open up. Take the time to listen to her. This builds the rapport she needs. Engage her on an emotional level. Your wife consistently needs you to acknowledge her feelings; she needs to know that what she is saying is registering with you. Even if you don't agree with her, don't dismiss her feelings or make her feel ashamed or silly about the way she feels. Learn to resist the urge to fix things. Steer away from making suggestions for a solution, when all she wants is to be heard and validated by you.

The Secret to Romancing Her A recent major study of over 5,000 couples found that women are happiest in their marriages when they get their husbands' attention. The single most important factor in her happy marriage is her husband’s emotional engagement. What does that mean, exactly? It's as simple as showing interest in the routines of your wife’s life – the routine, mundane things that men normally don't talk about. Granted, it's not most men's style to do this. But it is a simple way to boost the romance quotient in your marriage…and even to get her in the mood.

Need further proof? Roughly two out of every three divorces are initiated by women. Sanford Braver, PhD, a professor of psychology at Arizona State University, surveyed hundreds of divorced men and women. The top reason women gave for a divorce was "losing a sense of closeness."

Every person wants to feel comfortable, safe, validated and connected in marriage. Enhance your physical relationship by addressing any unmet needs with your wife. Show her active love and engagement. Openly share yourself and let her feel close to you. This kind of connecting, taking the time to tune in to each other, builds security and intimacy in a relationship. It’s what keeps a marriage – and a committed se

The Secret to Romancing Her A recent major study of over 5,000 couples found that women are happiest in their marriages when they get their husbands' attention. The single most important factor in her happy marriage is her husband’s emotional engagement. What does that mean, exactly? It's as simple as showing interest in the routines of your wife’s life – the routine, mundane things that men normally don't talk about. Granted, it's not most men's style to do this. But it is a simple way to boost the romance quotient in your marriage…and even to get her in the mood.

Need further proof? Roughly two out of every three divorces are initiated by women. Sanford Braver, PhD, a professor of psychology at Arizona State University, surveyed hundreds of divorced men and women. The top reason women gave for a divorce was "losing a sense of closeness."

Every person wants to feel comfortable, safe, validated and connected in marriage. Enhance your physical relationship by addressing any unmet needs with your wife. Show her active love and engagement. Openly share yourself and let her feel close to you. This kind of connecting, taking the time to tune in to each other, builds security and intimacy in a relationship. It’s what keeps a marriage – and a committed se

Need further proof? Roughly two out of every three divorces are initiated by women. Sanford Braver, PhD, a professor of psychology at Arizona State University, surveyed hundreds of divorced men and women. The top reason women gave for a divorce was "losing a sense of closeness."

Every person wants to feel comfortable, safe, validated and connected in marriage. Enhance your physical relationship by addressing any unmet needs with your wife. Show her active love and engagement. Openly share yourself and let her feel close to you. This kind of connecting, taking the time to tune in to each other, builds security and intimacy in a relationship. It’s what keeps a marriage – and a committed sex life – great.