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Answer Upon - In a Moment of Anger
Leading German thinker and philosopher of the last century Nietchze is the source to my knowledge of this wise observation that "marriage is a long conversation". While Nietchze generally has a bad reputation for his "superman theories" and his "God is dead" maxim - this seems his BEST philosophic observation about that grand ole human institution - MARRIAGE.Over the past seven years at our Bi Men Network - so many of our men have repeatedly conceded that they STILL HAVE SOME GREAT CONVERSATIONS with their wives. When push comes to shove many men acknowledge that their wives are in fact th
Thus, an effective way to manage our emotion is to quickly identify our feelings and acknowledging them when they arise. This also makes it easier for us to recognise the cause or trigger that give rise to the feelings. Of course, this is easier said than done.
To be able to recognise and identify our feelings the moment they arise, we need to practise constant self-awareness. This can be achieved through meditative practice, journaling or self-reflection. Another method is through feedbacks from those around us.
In A Moment of Anger
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Even the very best workplaces can always become better by focusing on six criteria: pay and benefits; opportunities for advancement; employee development and education; pride in work and the company; the degree of openness and fairness; and the level of camaraderie among employees.In the Industrial Age companies looked at employees as an expense. In these traditional hierarchical companies when decisions needed to be made the issue traveled up the chain of command and decisions were made at the top. The implementation of this decision was then made by the people further down, who weren’t like
Recent studies have revealed that the state of our emotional well-being plays an important role in our physical health. For instance, people who are depressed are at a higher risk of a heart attack, and those who have experienced a traumatic event are more likely to report poor physical health, often complaining of tiredness, loss of energy, bodyache and other vague physical symptoms.
Conversely, people with positive attitudes towards life generally feel good about themselves, are more joyous and happy about their lives. A good laugh can lift the spirit up and can even increased the body’s resistence to infections. Feeling good about ourselves also makes us comfortable in our relationship with others.
Big Problems Arise From Small Problems
“Big problems arise from small problems; The wise takes care of all his small problems, Thus he has no problems.” - Tao
The above is so true, and I’ll illustrate it with an example.
Mr Lee wanted to watch TV. His favourite movie was showing. However, his wife wanted him to take her grocery shopping and so reluctantly he obliged.
On the way to the shopping complex, they were caught in a bad traffic congestion, and a trip which normally takes 15 minutes took an hour instead. Being an unwilling shopper, Mr Lee was getting angrier by the minute and was close to a boiling point by the time they reached the shopping complex.
As they entered the car park in the complex, Mr Lee asked his wife to be on the look out for any vacant spot as they drove around. Just then, Mrs Lee’s mobile phone rang and she quickly answered the call and continued to chat with her friend.
Meanwhile, Mr Lee spotted an empty parking spot but before he could reach it, another driver quickly reversed into it.
That was the last straw for Mr Lee! He blew his top!
Before he knew it, he started shouting at the driver, using all kinds of foul languages. When his wife tried to calm him down, he turned towards her and started shouting at her, accusing her of chatting on the phone instead of helping him to look for a vacant parking lot.
Naturally that outburst spoiled the outing, and they both completed their grocery shopping in hostile silence.
A Feeling Unacknowledged
Looking back, we can easily see that Mr Lee’s outburst occurred because of his frustration at missing his movie. The traffic congestion only made his simmering frustration worse, and the parking incident was the last straw.
Thus, a small frustration has turned into an angry outburst!
Often, unacknowledged feelings such as this simmer within us, and they slowly and silently grow into full blown anger or outbursts when we are least able to control them. It is easier to manage minor frustrations before they become big and unmanagable.
Thus, an effective way to manage our emotion is to quickly identify our feelings and acknowledging them when they arise. This also makes it easier for us to recognise the cause or trigger that give rise to the feelings. Of course, this is easier said than done.
To be able to recognise and identify our feelings the moment they arise, we need to practise constant self-awareness. This can be achieved through meditative practice, journaling or self-reflection. Another method is through feedbacks from those around us.
In A Moment of Anger
In a mo
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- ft the spirit up and can even increased the body’s resistence to infections. Feeling good about ourselves also makes us comfortable in our relationship with others.
Big Problems Arise From Small Problems
“Big problems arise from small problems; The wise takes care of all his small problems, Thus he has no problems.” - Tao
The above is so true, and I’ll illustrate it with an example.
Mr Lee wanted to watch TV. His favourite movie was showing. However, his wife wanted him to take her grocery shopping and so reluctantly he obliged.
On the way to the shopping complex, they were caught in a bad traffic congestion, and a trip which normally takes 15 minutes took an hour instead. Being an unwilling shopper, Mr Lee was getting angrier by the minute and was close to a boiling point by the time they reached the shopping complex.
As they entered the car park in the complex, Mr Lee asked his wife to be on the look out for any vacant spot as they drove around. Just then, Mrs Lee’s mobile phone rang and she quickly answered the call and continued to chat with her friend.
Meanwhile, Mr Lee spotted an empty parking spot but before he could reach it, another driver quickly reversed into it.
That was the last straw for Mr Lee! He blew his top!
Before he knew it, he started shouting at the driver, using all kinds of foul languages. When his wife tried to calm him down, he turned towards her and started shouting at her, accusing her of chatting on the phone instead of helping him to look for a vacant parking lot.
Naturally that outburst spoiled the outing, and they both completed their grocery shopping in hostile silence.
A Feeling Unacknowledged
Looking back, we can easily see that Mr Lee’s outburst occurred because of his frustration at missing his movie. The traffic congestion only made his simmering frustration worse, and the parking incident was the last straw.
Thus, a small frustration has turned into an angry outburst!
Often, unacknowledged feelings such as this simmer within us, and they slowly and silently grow into full blown anger or outbursts when we are least able to control them. It is easier to manage minor frustrations before they become big and unmanagable.
Thus, an effective way to manage our emotion is to quickly identify our feelings and acknowledging them when they arise. This also makes it easier for us to recognise the cause or trigger that give rise to the feelings. Of course, this is easier said than done.
To be able to recognise and identify our feelings the moment they arise, we need to practise constant self-awareness. This can be achieved through meditative practice, journaling or self-reflection. Another method is through feedbacks from those around us.
In A Moment of Anger
In a mo
Millions of sun-lovers and fun-lovers flock the beaches to tan! That golden tan is the heart-throb of each and every girl. She wishes to make her skin more beautiful. This she does, surprisingly, knowing fully well that tanning does more harm than good. This is a strange craze. For getting certain additional outside glow, she is prepared to damage the inner vitality of her body.You know tanning causes you problems, yet you want to be a part of that lively environment on the colorful beach. To run through the shallow waters in the beach before thousands of admiring onlookers in your latest, mo
As they entered the car park in the complex, Mr Lee asked his wife to be on the look out for any vacant spot as they drove around. Just then, Mrs Lee’s mobile phone rang and she quickly answered the call and continued to chat with her friend.
Meanwhile, Mr Lee spotted an empty parking spot but before he could reach it, another driver quickly reversed into it.
That was the last straw for Mr Lee! He blew his top!
Before he knew it, he started shouting at the driver, using all kinds of foul languages. When his wife tried to calm him down, he turned towards her and started shouting at her, accusing her of chatting on the phone instead of helping him to look for a vacant parking lot.
Naturally that outburst spoiled the outing, and they both completed their grocery shopping in hostile silence.
A Feeling Unacknowledged
Looking back, we can easily see that Mr Lee’s outburst occurred because of his frustration at missing his movie. The traffic congestion only made his simmering frustration worse, and the parking incident was the last straw.
Thus, a small frustration has turned into an angry outburst!
Often, unacknowledged feelings such as this simmer within us, and they slowly and silently grow into full blown anger or outbursts when we are least able to control them. It is easier to manage minor frustrations before they become big and unmanagable.
Thus, an effective way to manage our emotion is to quickly identify our feelings and acknowledging them when they arise. This also makes it easier for us to recognise the cause or trigger that give rise to the feelings. Of course, this is easier said than done.
To be able to recognise and identify our feelings the moment they arise, we need to practise constant self-awareness. This can be achieved through meditative practice, journaling or self-reflection. Another method is through feedbacks from those around us.
In A Moment of Anger
In a mo
The traditional method of obtaining a degree for higher education involves attending a college or an institute. However, with the advent of technology in the form of videotapes, CD-ROMs, closed-circuit television and the Internet, a student can now receive relevant classroom information at home. This form of learning obtained without attending university or an educational institute is called distance learning or correspondence learning. Distance education involves a combination of audiovisual lectures and objective examinations. A student can choose from a variety of programs to study such as medi
Naturally that outburst spoiled the outing, and they both completed their grocery shopping in hostile silence.
A Feeling Unacknowledged
Looking back, we can easily see that Mr Lee’s outburst occurred because of his frustration at missing his movie. The traffic congestion only made his simmering frustration worse, and the parking incident was the last straw.
Thus, a small frustration has turned into an angry outburst!
Often, unacknowledged feelings such as this simmer within us, and they slowly and silently grow into full blown anger or outbursts when we are least able to control them. It is easier to manage minor frustrations before they become big and unmanagable.
Thus, an effective way to manage our emotion is to quickly identify our feelings and acknowledging them when they arise. This also makes it easier for us to recognise the cause or trigger that give rise to the feelings. Of course, this is easier said than done.
To be able to recognise and identify our feelings the moment they arise, we need to practise constant self-awareness. This can be achieved through meditative practice, journaling or self-reflection. Another method is through feedbacks from those around us.
In A Moment of Anger
In a mo
If you have bad credit, one of the strategies to reverse course and start improving your credit is a debt consolidation loan. Debt consolidation loans have been around for a while, but are extremely popular today as more and more people fall into the downward spiral of credit card and loan debt.Debt consolidation is a tool to help a consumer climb out of high interest debt and revolving payments that force a consumer to only pay the minimum monthly balance. A debt consolidation loan takes all of your debt and pays them off in one blow, knocking out high interest payments and revolving credi
Thus, an effective way to manage our emotion is to quickly identify our feelings and acknowledging them when they arise. This also makes it easier for us to recognise the cause or trigger that give rise to the feelings. Of course, this is easier said than done.
To be able to recognise and identify our feelings the moment they arise, we need to practise constant self-awareness. This can be achieved through meditative practice, journaling or self-reflection. Another method is through feedbacks from those around us.
In A Moment of Anger
In a moment of anger, we often say things we regret later. Unfortunately, words once spoken can never be withdrawn. In this way, many good relationships are scarred, some beyond repair. Thus it is important for us to learn to manage our emotion, particularly our anger.
Likewise, if we are on the receiving end, we need to learn forgiveness for we are not immuned against this same folly. If such outbursts are uncommon, and we know that the perpetrator is remorseful and puts in the effort to improve himself, we should readily forgive him. Why would we want to sacrifice a good relationship just because of a single event?
On the other hand, if this outburst is but one of many, frequent unreasonable outbursts, and we are often made the scapegoat, then we need to re-evaluate the relationship, or seek professional couples therapy.
Summary
In short, big problems in our relationship with others often arise when we ignore or allow them the opportunity to grow. Thus by dealing with them when they are still small and managable, we can prevent big problems from arising. The trick is to catch them early and this requires a high level of self-awareness. We can improve our self-awareness through the various means mentioned earlier.
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